I appreciate you sharing your thoughts in such depth, and I’m very interested in the journey you’re on as it relates to gender and wholeness. I’ll be honest. I’m pretty upset about some of what you wrote. I think you’re putting your finger on an important truth— that the way we relate to gender in modern society is broken, and leaves many young men feeling disenfranchised and alone. But I disagree very strongly with some of the conclusions you’ve come to about what the root of that problem is and what the solutions are. In particular, I find it incredibly disheartening that you went from having this amazing, gender-expansive experience personally, to concluding that transgender people (who have similar gender-expansive experiences, but on the scale of a lifetime) are fake or a part of what’s broken with gender in modern society. I wonder what you think about the leadership roles transgender people have played in indigenous communities (whose gender politics you seem to be very interested in) for thousands of years. Happy to link to more information on that if you are interested and don’t already know what I’m talking about.
I don’t think I can do the best job here in this comment at articulating what my problems are with your conclusions. In place of that, I would love to offer this video by one of my favorite YouTubers, which discusses (what I see as) the same problem you are identifying— the way men in modern western society have been left behind by current gender discourse, in a way that hurts everyone and deepens the gender divide: https://youtu.be/S1xxcKCGljY. Her take on the source of that problem and the solutions to it are different from yours (though perhaps not irreconcilable! With a few tweaks), and are more respectful of trans people. I would really honestly love to hear what you think of what she has to say. She has a very particular style of humor and argument that you’ll either love or hate, but either way I hope you’ll listen to what she has to say.
I really do respect the profound thinking you’ve been doing. It’s clear it is helping you heal, which is amazing to see. But I can’t help but worry that your healing may be coming at the price of promoting rhetoric that is harmful to people who are already suffering under the current status quo (I.e. transgender people). I hope you will read this comment, watch the video (and any other of the youtuber’s videos that catch your eye— I think her video on incel culture and the one on gender critical theory might also be relevant to the conversation) with an open mind, and let me know what you think about it.
What are your thoughts on Carl Jung? I find his ideas both compelling and strangely difficult to access. But a lot of this blog reminded me of his writing on encountering, synthesizing, and developing the feminine "anima" and masculine "animus" within the psyche.
This is beautifully written, mate. It gives words to half-thoughts and fleeting feelings that I’ve never grabbed hold for long enough to properly experience, let alone articulate. It makes me long for something I’m not sure I’ll ever get - maybe due to cowardice or unintelligence or malaise, or all three. Much to investigate, process and determine… a second or seventh read will help. Maybe I agree or disagree with most or all of it, but that doesn’t really seem like the point right now. Left me in a bizarre state of being. Kudos.
It is good to see that many people are waking up to the atrocities that these elites ("the dominator system") are trying to commit against humanity. I come from France and I can see the dictatorship in which I live (maybe you have already seen the videos of the protests in the city of Toulouse, which went around the world). You have matured a lot, I remember you on Survivor, you were young, resented the world you lived in.
Now I see what you're doing (outside of Survivor) and I think it's great that you've come to the conclusion that I've come to, which is to rise spiritually in the world and be a better version of yourself. I wish you all the best in your life, if I have anyone to recommend regarding these topics, it's Rodney from Survivor Worlds Apart, he does great content on nutrition, health, forbidden history.
I am so tuned in. I (believe I) am only in the very early stages of a conscious spiritual journey and I love hearing about experiences and gained insights from others. This is very well written, and it resonated with me. Thank you, Reiman.
So much wisdom here. And so much truth. I appreciate your eloquence and deep dive into concepts not often explored so honestly. Moving forward, I shall eschew the feminine victimhood I've too often donned and will work toward the heterarchy.
P.S. I think it's funny that such a furor erupted over at Reddit about the bit shared here regarding the vaccine (though I thank those drones-of-the-Matrix for alerting me to your new blog). How can they not see that they are fully under the Control you warn about?
It's just honestly hard to take much of what you say seriously when it is evident from very early on in this piece that your actions are still woefully divorced from your words. Vaccination is not a personal choice; it is a choice to protect those around you who are medically incapable of being vaccinated and so cannot make that choice themselves. This is literally hundreds of millions of people around the world: transplant patients, the immunosuppressed, children, and more groups besides. Your willingness to embrace death-- which I generally agree with-- does not give you license to make that choice for other people. The virus does not have a 99.7% survival rate among these groups. Your decision to remain unvaccinated makes you a danger to them, they who may wish to remain alive. I cannot square this with your insistence that you love everyone and only wish to be helpful. Disseminating unscientific justifications-- unironically and apparently unknowingly steeped in American ideas of what is a personal vs. communal choice-- for remaining a threat to the already-afflicted around you is even more harmful than your selfish (not "personal") decision-making, no matter how limited the audience for those justifications may be.
If this comes across as harsh, that is because it is difficult to garner respect for someone who affords so little to others-- in particular those without the fortune of good health-- through his actions.
There is a reason you may not be able to travel as a result of your decisions and it is a good one. If only you would not voluntarily stay a danger to the most vulnerable people still stuck around you.
i’m grabbed by by the gender focus of this piece. these are issues i didn’t know you faced and spent so much time thinking about - and i am right there with you, which can be comforting knowing that the silent (to me) difficulties others face are similar to mine. i’m a male struggling with gender as well, though i’ve taken far different steps in deciding to transition. the focus on masculine/male and feminine/female energy, it made me think about how too much of my time is spent caught up in those thoughts - the binds i’ve felt enforced on me from society and even within. where creating a holistic self not tied to either but to all, while still recognizing facts about myself, is the path. these characterizations we attach to gender, i found myself completely jaded from the masculine and rejected it - for a lot of reasons but this isn’t my blog post. society definitely plays a large part. when i understand, rejecting is not the answer. a mutual love of masculine + feminine, it desires to exist within myself, but i have not always been kind to the war waging within me.
like you i am throwing a hailmary every time i apply for survivor, maybe in hopes it will do something for me. thank you for writing this, i did enjoy reading it :)
Hi Reiman!
I appreciate you sharing your thoughts in such depth, and I’m very interested in the journey you’re on as it relates to gender and wholeness. I’ll be honest. I’m pretty upset about some of what you wrote. I think you’re putting your finger on an important truth— that the way we relate to gender in modern society is broken, and leaves many young men feeling disenfranchised and alone. But I disagree very strongly with some of the conclusions you’ve come to about what the root of that problem is and what the solutions are. In particular, I find it incredibly disheartening that you went from having this amazing, gender-expansive experience personally, to concluding that transgender people (who have similar gender-expansive experiences, but on the scale of a lifetime) are fake or a part of what’s broken with gender in modern society. I wonder what you think about the leadership roles transgender people have played in indigenous communities (whose gender politics you seem to be very interested in) for thousands of years. Happy to link to more information on that if you are interested and don’t already know what I’m talking about.
I don’t think I can do the best job here in this comment at articulating what my problems are with your conclusions. In place of that, I would love to offer this video by one of my favorite YouTubers, which discusses (what I see as) the same problem you are identifying— the way men in modern western society have been left behind by current gender discourse, in a way that hurts everyone and deepens the gender divide: https://youtu.be/S1xxcKCGljY. Her take on the source of that problem and the solutions to it are different from yours (though perhaps not irreconcilable! With a few tweaks), and are more respectful of trans people. I would really honestly love to hear what you think of what she has to say. She has a very particular style of humor and argument that you’ll either love or hate, but either way I hope you’ll listen to what she has to say.
I really do respect the profound thinking you’ve been doing. It’s clear it is helping you heal, which is amazing to see. But I can’t help but worry that your healing may be coming at the price of promoting rhetoric that is harmful to people who are already suffering under the current status quo (I.e. transgender people). I hope you will read this comment, watch the video (and any other of the youtuber’s videos that catch your eye— I think her video on incel culture and the one on gender critical theory might also be relevant to the conversation) with an open mind, and let me know what you think about it.
Thanks for reading!
Ben
Thank you for writing this. It matters
What are your thoughts on Carl Jung? I find his ideas both compelling and strangely difficult to access. But a lot of this blog reminded me of his writing on encountering, synthesizing, and developing the feminine "anima" and masculine "animus" within the psyche.
This is beautifully written, mate. It gives words to half-thoughts and fleeting feelings that I’ve never grabbed hold for long enough to properly experience, let alone articulate. It makes me long for something I’m not sure I’ll ever get - maybe due to cowardice or unintelligence or malaise, or all three. Much to investigate, process and determine… a second or seventh read will help. Maybe I agree or disagree with most or all of it, but that doesn’t really seem like the point right now. Left me in a bizarre state of being. Kudos.
It is good to see that many people are waking up to the atrocities that these elites ("the dominator system") are trying to commit against humanity. I come from France and I can see the dictatorship in which I live (maybe you have already seen the videos of the protests in the city of Toulouse, which went around the world). You have matured a lot, I remember you on Survivor, you were young, resented the world you lived in.
Now I see what you're doing (outside of Survivor) and I think it's great that you've come to the conclusion that I've come to, which is to rise spiritually in the world and be a better version of yourself. I wish you all the best in your life, if I have anyone to recommend regarding these topics, it's Rodney from Survivor Worlds Apart, he does great content on nutrition, health, forbidden history.
BIG LOVE From France!
I am so tuned in. I (believe I) am only in the very early stages of a conscious spiritual journey and I love hearing about experiences and gained insights from others. This is very well written, and it resonated with me. Thank you, Reiman.
Thank you for sharing. There is a lot to absorb and reflect on in here. I may write back with more detailed thoughts later :)
I love you Spencer!
You've lost it dude
So much wisdom here. And so much truth. I appreciate your eloquence and deep dive into concepts not often explored so honestly. Moving forward, I shall eschew the feminine victimhood I've too often donned and will work toward the heterarchy.
P.S. I think it's funny that such a furor erupted over at Reddit about the bit shared here regarding the vaccine (though I thank those drones-of-the-Matrix for alerting me to your new blog). How can they not see that they are fully under the Control you warn about?
It's just honestly hard to take much of what you say seriously when it is evident from very early on in this piece that your actions are still woefully divorced from your words. Vaccination is not a personal choice; it is a choice to protect those around you who are medically incapable of being vaccinated and so cannot make that choice themselves. This is literally hundreds of millions of people around the world: transplant patients, the immunosuppressed, children, and more groups besides. Your willingness to embrace death-- which I generally agree with-- does not give you license to make that choice for other people. The virus does not have a 99.7% survival rate among these groups. Your decision to remain unvaccinated makes you a danger to them, they who may wish to remain alive. I cannot square this with your insistence that you love everyone and only wish to be helpful. Disseminating unscientific justifications-- unironically and apparently unknowingly steeped in American ideas of what is a personal vs. communal choice-- for remaining a threat to the already-afflicted around you is even more harmful than your selfish (not "personal") decision-making, no matter how limited the audience for those justifications may be.
If this comes across as harsh, that is because it is difficult to garner respect for someone who affords so little to others-- in particular those without the fortune of good health-- through his actions.
There is a reason you may not be able to travel as a result of your decisions and it is a good one. If only you would not voluntarily stay a danger to the most vulnerable people still stuck around you.
Looks like you've lost your damn mind. Well, considering your idol was Mitt Romney it's not surprising you've become an open right wing shit head
Is it on purpose that this site is hard to find? I googled your name and this site didn't come up, I had to look in my history.
i’m grabbed by by the gender focus of this piece. these are issues i didn’t know you faced and spent so much time thinking about - and i am right there with you, which can be comforting knowing that the silent (to me) difficulties others face are similar to mine. i’m a male struggling with gender as well, though i’ve taken far different steps in deciding to transition. the focus on masculine/male and feminine/female energy, it made me think about how too much of my time is spent caught up in those thoughts - the binds i’ve felt enforced on me from society and even within. where creating a holistic self not tied to either but to all, while still recognizing facts about myself, is the path. these characterizations we attach to gender, i found myself completely jaded from the masculine and rejected it - for a lot of reasons but this isn’t my blog post. society definitely plays a large part. when i understand, rejecting is not the answer. a mutual love of masculine + feminine, it desires to exist within myself, but i have not always been kind to the war waging within me.
like you i am throwing a hailmary every time i apply for survivor, maybe in hopes it will do something for me. thank you for writing this, i did enjoy reading it :)
Even if you don’t agree with everything stated (I know I don’t) this is still a good read.